Quality over Quantity

I have 3 middle schoolers…..Lord y’all PRAY FOR THIS MAMA!!!!!!!

So…. We are to the point in our lives where the lessons being learned are just a bit tougher (Middle School is the WORST!!!!!!) My kids are having to learn (the hard way might I add) that just because someone talks to you, does NOT make them a friend. It makes them an acquaintance.

I am so tired of hearing my kids make comments about their “friends” doing something that they don’t appreciate them doing, or their “friends” disrespecting them and telling their secrets etc……

We all have to learn this lesson. Quality over quantity!!!!!! If you have 2 or 3 GREAT friends that have your back, wants you to do well in life, and encourages you to do better…. That is all you need. Popularity is for the birds. Yes it would be nice to be liked by the masses, however, just because they like you to your face does not mean they are the same behind your back.

My son has a couple of bad influence “friends” that I cannot stand. He just got in trouble thanks to one of their actions. Is it their fault or problem that he got in trouble? No sir. No ma’am. It is his own fault for being a follower instead of making better choices and standing alone to do what was right. He didn’t understand that, but I bet he does now because his “friend” is not bored now that he himself is grounded. His “friend” is not affected by him not having a phone or PlayStation to cyber zombie with. *Hard Eye Roll.*

My daughter, slightly older and with different issues, has a couple of friends that make her feel horrible some days. They tell her secrets and gossip and omg I cannot stand it!!!! I have tried telling her to remove the people from her life that don’t add positivity to it. She says, “then I wont have anyone to talk to in gym.” I tried explaining it is better to have no one to talk to, rather than someone that makes you feel this badly from day to day. I also tried telling her to just talk to them but keep your private thoughts and things to yourself— you’re still talking to her, but giving her nothing to talk about. If that isn’t enough for her and she walks away, LET HER!

Some adults need to learn this too. Know your worth!! Keep people that add to your life close, and don’t be afraid to let the emotional vampires and leeches walk away. Life is too short for all of that! Love yourself and trust that the right people will love you for who your are. The wrong ones wont and that’s fine they can take a hike.