This topic is literally a double edged sword. No matter how you run at it, its going to cut deep into the heart. Here is my opinion— and yes, I know; Opinions are like assholes. We all have one and they all stink. But here goes nothing….
There are situations out there in which abortion should be permitted without question such as rape, life threatening medical conditions, birth control fails etc. However, as woman, I cannot stand hearing that Roe VS Wade being over turned is infringing on women’s rights, and here is why.
When men are trapped into a pregnancy, and yes women, it has been done, and they are not ready for the responsibility they have absolutely no say so in the situation at all. There has never been anything there to protect men from this situation. They are slapped with child support and punished if they don’t pay it. They are ridiculed, and judged IMMEDIATELY. How is that fair to our sons?
When a man is excited for the new baby to arrive, but mom doesn’t want the responsibility; again dad has no say so. Mom can go abort without his permission. It does not matter if he wanted his child. It does not matter if his heart breaks because its his kid, but not his body. I’m not seeing how this is fair in the least.
Keep in mind I have sons and daughters to think about here…. If my daughter decides to have unprotected sex and gets pregnant, you are telling me that she should be able to go abort that pregnancy without question and go on with her life. But, if one of my sons does the same thing, he will be required to take a DNA test (if he claims its not his) and then slapped with child support for a child he was not ready for… and possibly jailed if he cannot afford to pay the child support ordered…. Again for a child that he was not ready for . So I will NEVER understand anyone saying that women have less rights than men. I cannot see how this is taking away women’s rights, as I feel that this is simply leveling the playing field. As women, we want equality; but we forget that we will never be equal because men are held to higher standards than women. Men have feelings too, they’re just not supposed to show them or they’re weak. Men have to be the bread winners, and be held accountable for their actions— it doesn’t matter that the woman made the same choices because its her womb. Babies are not only a part of the woman, but half of a whole and that other half is the dad whether you like it or not. So as women, we should hold ourselves to a higher standard— take birth control if you know you are not ready for a child, don’t sleep with a man unprotected and risk getting pregnant by a man you know you don’t want to deal with for 18 years. Communicate and find out if the man is ready to be a father, and if not practice SAFE SEX. If you think he’s cheating, or on the verge of leaving you GROW UP and talk to him about it, and if that is the case let him go, don’t trap him with a child and 18 years of child support. We need to be held accountable as well. Period. I pray hard for both my sons and daughters. It’s a painful world out there…. For both genders. Not just women.
And finally, why is everyone so set on fighting to legalize abortions, and using the poor orphans as the reason abortions should be legal instead of fighting for adoption to be made more affordable and more easily accessible? I have never understood why I could go to my local clinic and get an abortion for $350.00 or less but if I want to go adopt a a child I have to pay background fees, a lawyer, etc totaling anywhere from $5000.00-$40,000.00. How about we flip that? $5000.00+ for abortion, $350.00 ish to give a child a home full of love.
If you are happy about the over turn, then I am happy for you but remember to be mindful of the feelings of those around you that feel pretty down about the situation. If you are upset about the overturn, remember not to take it out on those that are happy about it as they have their reasons as well. Keep debates respectful, and try to look at it from all sides as all sides make some good points. Fighting it out isn’t the answer.
Anonymommy 